There are many polarities in life. Some create a feeling that seems impossible to resolve. For example, we want a stable and secure life, yet we also desire change. In relationships, we want both freedom and commitment. Barry Johnson says that these polarities are completely independent but are parts of the same whole. You cannot choose one over the other; both are necessary for the system to continue.
How might we find ways to coexist these polarities? It’s crucial to acknowledge both needs and give them the space they require. For instance, balancing freedom and commitment in relationships involves maintaining individual boundaries while nurturing the commitment within the relationship. If we prioritize commitment over freedom, we might gain security and stability but lose our personal space and feel restricted. If we prioritize freedom, we may increase our opportunities for self-discovery and new experiences, which can bring excitement and dynamism, but we might also face superficiality and difficulty in forming deep connections in relationships.
This balance doesn’t have to be a strict 50-50. Perhaps the key to holding these polarities together lies not in a constant search for balance, but in developing a flexible approach that adapts to our changing needs.
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